Conflict resolution and managing crisis effectively is an hallmark of excellent leadership. One of the characteristics of a good leader is foresight; which in this context, talks about the ability to see crisis or danger looming and to quickly avert it as much as possible.
Listen to Podcast: How To Resolve Conflict and Manage Crisis in Marriage as a Leader
The biggest challenge that many marriages face nowadays is evidenced in the inability of the couples to resolve conflicts and manage crisis in the marriage. You would hear phrases like “we went our separate ways due to irreconcilable differences.” When you hear statements like this, it is a way of saying that the marriage has hit the bottom rock.
Conflict resolution and management of crisis in marriage is a function of leadership. And as we have established that the man is the leader, both spiritually and physically when it comes to the marriage, he must therefore ensure that matters that could bring about conflict and crisis in the marriage are immediately dealt with.
So, the starting point to resolving Conflict and Managing Crisis in the marriage is that the man, who is the leader, should try as much as possible to listen and understands his wife. 1 Peter 3:7 says: “Husbands, likewise, dwell with them with understanding, giving honor to the wife, as to the weaker vessel, and as being heirs together of the grace of life, that your prayers may not be hindered.” Leadership is about listening. Leadership is about coming to a place of mutual trust and understanding so that the conflict on ground could be resolved.
The other thing to do in resolving conflicts in the marriage is that both the husband and the wife must be willing to hear themselves out. As the husband, you don’t oppress your wife’s point of view. She is not your slave but your helper. Therefore, you must be willing to hear her out so that she can help you. As the wife, you don’t shout down your husband as well just because he is wrong and you are right. Trying to prove your point of view should not give birth to shouting at each other. James 1:19-20 says: “So then, my beloved brethren, let every man be swift to hear, slow to speak, slow to wrath; for the wrath of man does not produce the righteousness of God.”
Did you see that? By shouting down your husband wouldn’t produce any godly repentance or righteousness from him. As a matter of fact, that action alone would deflate his leadership authority.
Finally, resolving conflicts and managing crisis in marriage comes through forgiveness. Irrespective of what is happening, the husband and the wife must be willing to forgive themselves. Colossians 3:12-13 says: “Therefore, as the elect of God, holy and beloved, put on tender mercies, kindness, humility, meekness, longsuffering; bearing with one another, and forgiving one another, if anyone has a complaint against another; even as Christ forgave you, so you also must do.”
I believe you have learnt something in this episode of Leaderview that would improve your marriage. Till next week, God bless you.
Article Source: [Centre for New Dimension Leadership]
