A marriage counsellor, Mrs. Bosede Ola-Samuel has declared that irregular sexual activities among couples is one of the major factors causing dissolution of many marriages.
Ola-Samuel made this declaration on Thursday while delivering a lecture titled “Dangers of Irregular Sex” during the ‘Veterans Day’ which was part of the activities for 2023 Nigeria Union of Journalists (NUJ) Oyo State council Press Week.
The event was attended by the immediate past Minister of Youths and Sports, Chief Sunday Dare, former Ambassador to the Philippines, Dr. Yemi Farounmbi, Chairman of the Oyo NUJ League of Veteran Journalists, Mr. Banji Ogundele, former Oyo NUJ Chairman and PRO of The Polytechnic Ibadan, Chief Soladoye Adewole, NUJ Chairman, Mr. Ademola Babalola and Oyo State SWAN Chairman, Niyi Alebiosu.
Ola-Samuel said that many women endure marriages rather than enjoy it.
She added that many women are subjected to an unenjoyable, irregular sex life by their husbands.
She then explained that this was causing dissolution of many marriages, because some women find it difficult to endure.
The marriage counsellor narrated that “many men act like helicopters whose engine kicks and takes off immediately, whereas their women are like aeroplanes which must be kicked by its pilot and made to taxi a long distance before eventually taking off.”
She added that the number one sex organ of any woman is not her breast but her mind.
She noted that many wives reject sexual advances from their husbands “because their body is not moved by what they see, unlike men that see women’s private regions and immediately get moved and are ready for action.
“Many women as aeroplanes begin sex enjoyment when the helicopter in their husbands has completed flying and lands.
“And immediately his helicopter touches the ground, he turns to face the wall, leaving the aeroplane’s engine to groan. That is a fire brigade approach which turns many of us off when the issue of sex comes in.”
She, however, stressed that regular sex by men prevents prostate enlargement/cancer, especially at old age.
“For the husband and wife to enjoy sex properly, especially during the menopausal stage of the wife when her vagina is no more free due to natural change, good talks, romantic touches, appealing inducement, creating happiness, helping to do some house chores- all help to move wives to accept sex and enjoy it.
“If such is done regularly, enjoyable sex will be experienced, thereby bringing peace, harmony, love and progress to the family.”
